who wants to look like a cupcake?

ugh. i've been looking at dresses in a lot of places, and realize that as a chub scout, my options are limited. why do people think chubby girls can only wear floor-length gowns? i don't want to! i want a tea length dress, dammit. which means one thing; i'm going to have to lose some weight. not a lot, my groom-to-be likes me curvy and likes my booty, but i suppose i wouldn't mind losing 15 pounds or so. just so i can buy a dress that doesn't pile on the layers and length. or have a dress made for me that isn't embarrassing in yardage amounts. besides, we all know i don't want a white dress.

also, does anyone else get the feeling that's not the right face for this body? girl looks weird, true story.

more invitation goodness

the woman who designed this DIY, folding-invitation template is named Amanda, which must mean she's a genius. also, the invites are ridiculously cute, and are making me think about ways i can cut down on the work of making/folding/printing a million invites.

i was also reading the other day about someone who used their sewing machine to make perforations in their invites so the RSVP card could be easily torn off and sent back. i like the ides of using my machine on invites anyway; i like the way thread and paper look together, and it's an unusual way to add color and texture to paper. i might need to go buy some random paper and pull out my machine and experiment.

invitations

invitations are on my mind lately. i saw this one over at iDiy, and thought it was impossibly cute and smart and modern looking. i want to design my own, of course, partly because i hate things that are too frilly and traditional, and partly because i'm a glutton for punishment and enjoy making things harder for myself. the fact that i have over a year to work on this project makes me feel better about doing it, though. i might be slow, but i have a lot of time.

motifs and ideas so far include using faux bois as a theme (i even have an idea sketched out for my wedding band that uses it), making nesting invitations a la russian matryoshkas, or using the colors of great blue herons and feathers to tie it all together. i'm pretty sure that the dress i want is going to be a dark, pearly grey, and D wants to wear something with tails, so what i really want is something simple, modern and funny without being too cute. that's hardly demanding. ha ha.

also...

....i'll spend more time on this blog talking about my transition from spinsterhood to step-motherhood. six months ago i was living the high life baby; buying wet cat food and staying up late at night to watch cartoons on my computer. now i live with my boyfriend and his two kids, who live with us full-time. so far things have been going well (knock on wood) but even then i still feel hugely inadequate and ill-equipped to be a "good" mom. i swear too much, let the 10 year old watch harold and kumar movies, rarely enforce brushing before bedtime, and don't always prepare well-balanced, nutritious meals. however, i am great at bringing home movies and comic books, have introduced the kids to fringe cartoons and drive-in movies, and love them like the dickens. we'll figure stuff out along the way, and i think as long as i back up their pop and don't try to force anything we're going to be fine.

after all, we all like cephalopods, nachos and listening to nights with alice cooper.

truly selfish, self-absorbed blogging

i'm getting married next year and want a place to organize my wedding stuff, as well as talk to other brides & grooms-to-be. i'd use my main blog, but let's face it; unless you are actually involved in a wedding, wedding blogs are supremely boring. i still have a year and a half to go, and don't want to chase anyone off with endless posts about dress options and tirades about how wedding favors suck. if you're here, yay! if you're not, then okay, i understand. a few months ago i kind of wouldn't have thought i'd be doing this, but i went and fell for a man who believes in marriage. his enthusiasm for this wedding is totally contagious as well. before too long i'll be bridezilla, and most likely feeling pretty pleased about that.